Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.
– William James
What do you think of when you hear the word “stain”?
My mind goes back to a certain incident when I was a child. It involved a carpet and my muddy shoes. Now, when the two mixed I had a very common emotion: complete and utter fear. You see my mother did not like when my muddy shoes met her carpet. So I panicked. I took off the shoes immediately, rushed to the cleaning closet, and tried to find that foamy carpet cleaner.
I hurried back, believing that every second counted. I scrubbed and scrubbed, trying to lift the stain while brushing the carpet back to normal, hoping that no one would suspect anything. And no matter if it’s mud on a carpet, a spill on a piece of furniture, ketchup on our clothes, or coffee on our car seats, we switch into crisis mode when something is in danger of staining.
What if we treated our relationships that way? What if the hurtful words we spoke, the anger we showed or the times we didn’t listen, caused blemishes or stains on our lives. Because, if we’re honest, we don’t treat those types of stains immediately. We let them sit, hoping they’ll fix themselves. And when those stains settle deeper and deeper, we see it takes a heavier amount of scrubbing to make it right.
So whether it is a broken relationship, a moment of anger, or just silly drama, don’t let the stains set. Go to the closet, get the “resolve,” and start scrubbing.
So thankful for you,